abduction: See kidnapping
abrasion play: Using something rough (such as sandpaper or scrub brush) to provide stimulation. May leave temporary marks; some may go so far as to draw blood, in which case infection prevention is important.
adult baby (see diaper lover): One who dresses and/or role plays the part of a baby or toddler.
aftercare (see Dom drop, sub drop, subspace): The time after a BDSM scene or play session in which the participants calm down, and slowly come back in touch with reality. Depending on the intensity of the scene and the nature of the participants, aftercare may be very important to one or both participants in order to prevent later emotional aftereffects. Aftercare may consist of some or all of the following components: Being away from noise, activity, bright light; physical closeness and touching with the partner; hydration with water or sport drink; keeping warm. Aside from its necessity, aftercare can be one of the most rewarding and loving experiences the participants can share.
age play: Scene (or entire relationship) in which one person (usually the submissive) dresses and acts as if younger in age, ranging from infant to adult child. May or may not include sexual relations. Does not usually include or imply aspects of incest or pedophilism,* but rather the nurturing relationship of parent/child or teacher/student.
algolagnia: Deriving sexual pleasure from the application of pain to anerogenous zone
3anal hook: Often used in suspension bondage, it is placed in the anal opening and used as part of the suspension.
anal torture (also see figging): Inflicting pain on the anus. Keep in mind that this flesh is tender and easily damaged (ouch)!
anal training: Inserting progressively larger objects (usually butt plugs) in order to stretch the anal sphincter, in preparation for such activities as anal sex andfisting. Safety note: Should proceed slowly and cautiously in order to reduce the risk of hemorrhoids or worse problems; the recipient should always be in control of the insertion.
androgyny: Showing characteristics of both sexes.
anilingus: an activity involving oral sex with another person’s anus.
animal play: (see pet play, ponygirl , ponyboy, pup-play) The sub behaves and/or dresses like an animal. The principal theme of animal role play is usually the voluntary or involuntary reduction (or transformation) of a human being to animal (see objectification). Animal role play may or may not involve sexual activity. Not to be mistaken with bestiality/zoophilia, which involves the actual animal.
animal transformation fantasy: Fantasy in which the focus is on the sub entering the altered mind space of a different species.
anime: A style of animated cartoon developed in Japan in the 1960s. Seemanga.
anti-humiliation (also reverse humiliation): Saying and doing nice things in a way that opens up the subject emotionally, often causing tears and and emotional breakdown. Similar to extended aftercare, but with the intent to build intensity.
auction: Auctions can be held for many reasons: to raise funds for an event, a new piece of equipment, repairs, benefit for a charity or a needy member, or—fun! Most people think of slave auctions, but they may also be of donated “toys,” dungeon time, or the services of someone with special skills; for example, a rope bondage session, sensuous massage, tailoring, lawn service, etc.
auralism: a fetish consisting of sexual arousal or excitement caused by sound, to be compared with voyeurism. This sound might be music, a voice, sex noises (including listening to others having sex) or other sounds.